BFSC: Tavia is wearing a Bikini!

Hey Fly People!

Welp y'all here it is...

The submission I put off until last for Jasifer's Big Fat Summer Challenge 

because it was the biggest challenge of them all!

The BIKINI!!!

(insert dramatic music here)

Here is my bikini...or is it?  Scroll down for the funny part of my "bikini".

Pics taken on Myrtle Beach a couple of weeks ago when I was there for my family reunion.

 

 It is funny because I knew how I wanted to reflect on doing this challenge and I literally just read a post from the fabulous Juanette expressing better than I probably would have, my exact feelings.  Please, check it out. 

Now I will say my that my self image has come a long way.  I used to be an athlete.  I ran track and was in tip top shape.  Then I had babies, gained weight, and gone through a divorce.  All of this was murder on my self esteem.  I did not feel great about myself at all.  But I will say that God is always good and all I have to do is remind myself that I am fearfully and wonderfully made!  I praise God because he created me and his work is wonderful! Every lump, bump and dimple is who I am and I accept it.

Also...I have been blessed with a husband who loves me, flaws and all!  After almost 10 years of being together he still looks at me like we just started dating and I am so appreciative to have him! Yes, a woman's self worth should not be because of a man and I so agree with that but it truly couldn't hurt a woman's esteem when she has a man who genuinely compliments her every chance he gets.   Tony makes me feel good!

I learned so much about myself every time I put on something I thought I would never ever wear.

So to all the participants of this challenge, I shout you out because if you gained what I gained, you have done some real stepping out of comfort zones!  Kudos to you all!

Jennifer thanks for doing this...you rock girl!

Now for the funny part of wearing this bikini.  I got this swimsuit yearssss ago from Walmart.  This has to be at least 5 or 6 years old.  I was not one to buy swimsuits so I bought one just to have one.

I didn't own a bikini and as I mentioned before I was on a spending diet. 

So I had to make it do what it do, baby.

This is what my swim suit really looks like.  It has a band in a middle that made for easy tucking.  I swear, it was made like that on purpose because it tucked perfectly and looked just like a bikini.

Before all this, I was not trying to buy a bikini to wear it only one time...so I thought.

Hey ya gotta do what ya gotta do!

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Python Pumps Dressed Up &Down:BFSC!

Hey Fashion Friends!

The weekend is coming to a close and I am wondering where the heck did it go?!?  It seems like I had a whole lot nothing going on and was just as busy a one legged man in a butt kicking contest.  If that didn't make any sense to you, don't feel bad because it sure didn't make any sense to me either...lol.  I just can't put my finger on why I am not ready for the week to start.  Oh well.

This post is a TWOFER...two outfits in one post!

I decided to feature my favorite turquoise python pumps dressed up and dressed down. 

First up...the dressed up!

These Chinese Laundry pumps are definitely the go to shoes in my closet.  This is because they are chic but most important they are comfy!  I can wear these for extended amount of time and my toes are not ready to disown me.  You've seen these before in at least two of my previous posts.  If you click the Chinese Laundry or python label below, it will take you to the other posts.  I know, I should provide you with the links but I am being lazy...judge me if you like.

In this outfit I thought mixing the stripes with the python print would give it a more chic look and take it up a notch...BAM! 

*side note* I need some good Emeril Lagasse Jambalaya in my life right about now. 

I am starving as I type this.

Blouse: Ashley Stewart  Skirt: Thrifted:  Pumps: Chinese Laundry  Bag: Charming Charlie

Shout out to my son Tre' for not telling my bag was backwards. 

I guess this was payback because I made him get up to take my pictures before I went to work.

Next up is the python pumps dressed down also my second to last submission to Jasifer's Big Fat Summer Challenge...the CROPPED TOP!  Woot woot!

Showing my belly love!

Confession:  I didn't have a cropped top and I'm on a spending diet so I had to improvise.

I made this top from a old thrifted sweater.

This was another item that was out of my comfort zone...hence me not even having a cropped top. But as said before, this is the whole purpose of this challenge.

Will I buy a real cropped top in the future? 

Sure, why not?!?

Top and Levi Shorts: Thrifted  Bag: NY Vendor  Belt:  Sean John  Watch: Fossil

Necklace: Flea Market  Beaded Bracelets: DIY

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Color Blocked Stripes: BFSC!

Hola Chicas and Chicos!

It has been a little longer than I would have liked since my last post but I was away at my family reunion in Myrtle Beach, SC.  It was a great time reconnecting with family and get away on a mini vacay.

Continuing on down the stretch of Jasifer's Big Fat Summer Challenge, I wanted to mark bodycon off the list.

Wow...almost finished.  It has been fun!  That teenie weenie bikini is coming soon y'all!

OK back to the skirt.  I've worn this skirt several times. I posted it here and I decided to remix it.

Jacket: Dots  Bodycon skirt: Thrifted  Shell: Kmart  Shoes:  GoJane  Accessories: Flea Market

This pic is such a bad angle but I'm using it anyway.

In the spirit of the bodycon and keeping up with the purpose of this challenge which is too help us out of our comfort zones and to show others that plus size women can tactfully wear alot of the items on this list, here is another pic of me wearing a striped bodycon skirt from a previous post.

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I'm Gonna Be Me in My Chucks!

What It Do?!?

OK...roll with me because this will definitely be a random...well sorta.  One of the lessons I had to learn early in life was that my life is exponentially better when I work at doing what pleases me (and God) and not others.  When I do this a large percent of the time I am really really happy.  Hence the inception of this blog.  I truly enjoy doing it and for the most part it is simple.

See the thing is I don't walk around tying to be what I'm not. I don't waste my time trying to get what you got. I work at pleasing me 'cuz I can't please you and that's why I do what I do. My soul flies free like a willow tree do wee do wee do weeeeeee...

Incense is burning so I'm feelin right...aight

LOL!

Erykah Badu's Appletree came to mind when I battled back and forth to post this look because I thought it was nothing special. I wore it over the weekend spending a real casual time with some friends. Then I had to smack myself and apologize for my quick slip of judgement. I know my blog and the outfits I wear will not appeal to everyone and I am truly cool with that.

Now having said this,  I want to encourage anyone reading this to just be you and not worry about pleasing everybody with every decision you make.  Whether it be during blogging or anything else. 

Just continue to do you!  If your intentions are pure, it will work out.

If you are not careful you can easily slip in that hole. 

I will continue to remind myself as much as needed.

Vest & Levi shorts: Thrifted  Sneakers: Converse Chuck Taylor All Stars 

2 Neon Belts: Forman Mills  2 cut bandanas for pocket squares   random accessories

So...let me be clear.  I appreciate EVERY reader, EVERY comment and EVERY time each of you click my link.  And this is because I truly you believe you don't have to pick from my apple tree and be down. *wink*

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WORK IT WEDNESDAY w/ a Little Bit of Lacquer